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Easy Dating after divorce

2007-09-11T06:47:00.000-07:00

Easy dating can seem like a strange world, especially if you've been divorced not long ago. The rules have changed, the players can seem more complex and winning might appear hopeless if you aren't prepared.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year. But all is not lost. It is possible to date after divorce if you follow some basic pointers.
HEAL BEFORE DATING AGAIN
"You don't want to meet someone and the slightest behavior pattern that is similar to the ex, you pull away and not give that person a chance," says Cornish, author of The Sacred Bond. "When someone gets divorced, sometimes they build a protective coat around their heart. You want to make sure you are completely over that before dating again."
THINK BEFORE INVOLVING CHILDREN
Striking the right balance when dating after divorce can be especially sensitive when children are involved.
"Do not get children involved in dating unless you are going to spend a lot of time with that person," says Cornish. "If it doesn't work, you are bringing all kinds of people in their life and you can send mixed messages. If the children are older, you can tell them that you are dating and that you'd like for them to meet the person. When the children are younger, leave them out of it because resentment can set up. Get to know the person first."
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LEARN TO BE HAPPY AND HAVE FUN
Dating after divorce also means giving yourself permission to be happy again. This means learning how to have fun, she says, as you date. "The old relationship is gone. Realize you are worthwhile and others want you. Realize you are attractive and you are supposed to have fun."
Carla Fox of Joliet, IL, was married for 15 years before she divorced in 1998. When she was ready to start dating again, she used God as her guide and details those experiences in the book A Miracle Made In Heaven.
"God does not use divorce as a life sentence of loneliness," Fox recalls in the book, as she realized that she could still be blessed in a relationship in spite of her divorce.
BE CAUTIOUS
Also a registered nurse, Fox learned that you must keep both eyes open when trudging dating waters once more.
"Don't be sidetracked by what you see, such as their attractive appearance or the many gifts they bring. It's so easy to get caught up looking at an individual in the natural. Pray and ask God to help you see them through spiritual eyes, so you can begin to examine their fruits of the spirit."
She practiced what she preached. It led to a trip down the aisle in 2002 when she wed Pastor Robert Fox.
"You have to divorce yourself from the individual and not the institution of marriage," she says. "The marriage did not hurt you, the individual did. Then you start with a clean slate."
ACCEPT PERSON WHERE HE IS
Dating after divorce, says Fox, also means you must accept that this new person might not be empty-handed.
"They may come with children, a house note, car note and bad credit from a previous marriage. You can't want this person without any baggage, but inspect each other's baggage. It's not so much on the physical."
LEARN TO COMMUNICATE
Robert LeCruise Johnson has been divorced for nearly five years. Since dating, he has learned that it is essential to communicate.
"When you're not looking to get back into a relationship right away, you have to let a person know that," says Johnson, an account manager at FedEx Freight in Memphis. "One thing I've noticed as I get older is feeling pressured to get into a relationship. You want to be a person's friend and get to know that person first so that you know what the person wants. You have to know who you are dealing with. Talk first to see what the person's motivation is."
BE A PERSON'S FRIEND FIRST
He has found that dating after divorce means taking the time to be a friend first and foremost.
"Be a person's friend. That way you know what a person wants," says Johnson. "Sometimes there are hidden agendas when you don't discuss it. When you are a person's friend, you get to know that person and what he or she wants."
BE SELECTIVE
Clinical psychologist Dr. Darlene Powell-Garlington says you must be selective when dating after divorce.
"People are anxious about stepping out again and getting to know someone again," explains Powell-Garlington, who authored Love Affairs: How To Get The Relationship You've Always Wanted And God Wants You To Have. "There is a certain sense of shame and sense of failure. It's a matter of being discreet and clear about your boundaries. Be assertive and clear about what pace you want to take a new friendship and how you define it."
BE AWARE OF WHAT YOU WANT
She also believes a person must be aware of what he wants before dating after divorce.

Meet Your Love In a Public Place

2007-06-06T23:56:00.000-07:00

It can be very intimidating for some people to approach someone they see in public and ask them on a date. But if you’re not even trying, the likelihood of finding that special someone is slim to none.
I’ve had friends that said they saw a gorgeous girl in a store or a public place and thought she might have been into them but they hesitated and she left so they lost the opportunity to find out. But don’t worry, you can approach them and find out, and more often than not, even get a date!
This how to video shows you how to properly approach someone when on public transportation but the same exact tips can and should be applied to any public situation. You might be waiting in a dentist’s office or Supercuts, standing in line at Quiznos, or sitting in a Starbucks. It doesn’t matter, the same advice holds true.
Remember, if you don’t even try, it’s so much more difficult to meet someone. Even if you’re turned down, who will know? Chances are you’ll never see her or anyone else that’s around again. So you really have nothing to lose but you have everything to gain! She could be the one and if not, “there are many other fish in the sea.”
Most of my friends that didn’t “make a move” eventually met someone but it took a lot longer for them than it should have and in most of those cases it was people they already knew well. Don’t hesitate, try chatting up the next attractive person you see. Believe me it works, I know from experience; it’s how I met my wife.

Easy Dating Advice

2007-06-06T23:55:00.001-07:00

Internet Dating Advice And Dating Tips To Meet New People For Dating And Possibly More. Most of the Internet dating advice available is for the person who has never participated in Internet dating before. Standard dating advice about how to begin Internet dating, what precautions to take when dating online, and how to move relationships from the Internet to the real world are all widely available. However, what about those people who need dating advice because Internet dating is something they enjoy but something just isn’t quite working for them. Thousands upon thousands of people have been using the Internet as a means of dating for years now, and those people need a different type of Internet dating advice than the Internet dating advice available for the novice Internet dater.

How can a girl show that she loves

2007-06-06T06:35:00.000-07:00

Sometimes it’s hard for a woman to tell if a man is interested in them or just being polite. This is especially the case when he is shy or maybe is inexperienced in social situations with women. But there are some instinctual behaviors that can give you clues as to their true intentions.

Keep in mind that many men will be interested in any women that will talk to them so you might want to gauge their behavior before you make an approach. If a nice smile from across the room doesn’t peak their interest and bring them to you, maybe you should keep scanning the room for someone else.
What do you look for? Know of any other signs?

That's my dating advice to you

2007-06-06T06:34:00.000-07:00

Mark has recently started asking me for dating advice. Sunday night he spent two hours in my room talking to me in detail about how he could go about asking this girl for a date. I mean, he wanted to know how to phrase his phone call when he asked her out, right down to how he would know if it was okay to hold her hand, and at what point you can consider someone your girlfriend (that last one, I didn't really have a good answer for, although I did say that at his age, if you were holding hands, you probably could say it then).We went over fairly detailed scenarios, including the possibility that her parents don't allow her to date yet. And how they might not like the idea of a total stranger showing up to pick up their daughter and cart her away for a few hours. (possible solution: asking if she would like to meet him at the movie theater) He wanted to know what to say to her when he was going out to get a refill on the popcorn they're sharing. (hint: tell her what you're doing and ask her if she wants anything) Today he came home with the very happy news (to him) that there is another Y dance on Friday. This was where he met the girl, and also the only place he has ever seen her (at two dances). Now, if she is there, he is plotting (again, with my help) on how to get her phone number. (my helpful hint: ask if he can call her sometime....then ask for her number) (he said, "What if she says no?" answer: say "OK." "ohhhhhhhh," he replied. My gosh.)This has been interesting to me on a bunch of different levels. One is that holy cow! My boy is old enough that he's thinking about dating! How the hell did I get this old? Another is just how interesting it is to see the inner workings of my son's brains, and his worries. And noticing how much he's like me, in trying to see all the different angles of something before he gets into it. Another thing that I like is that this gives me yet another teachable moment for him; actually, a whole lot of them. There's the whole "girls are really people, not scary aliens" lesson, along with letting him see that many of other people's decisions that affect him are not necessarily going to have anything to *do* with him (she might say no to a date for a whole bunch of reasons that aren't a rejection of Mark personally...other scheduled plans, her parents won't let her date, etc). There's letting him see that there are sides to every relationship, and the need for consideration of "her side" (i.e. If you get her phone number, you then have to follow through and CALL HER, otherwise she will think it's a personal rejection of her, and how would you like that if it was you? So don't get her number if you aren't ready to call.) And, to remember to just be himself, and not pretend to be something he's not, because you want someone to like you for yourself. Then there's just the practical advice of dating. Like, when you call her for a date, already have a specific plan in mind. Instead of saying "wanna go out sometime?", ask her "Would you like to go to a movie on Saturday and then get an ice cream?" (which is actually the planned activity we worked out for when he does get to the 'date' stage) There's, make sure you have enough money to pay for everything, plus a little extra, 'cause it's super embarrassing to run out of money. There's, you need to walk her to her door after the date is over, not just say "see ya" from the car. And, don't hog the armrest at the movie. You know, the basics.What's really funny about all this (besides, hello, this is my KID asking me!), is that I'm not actually good at dating, myself. I haven't had a lot of experience in formal dating. Most of my past dating involved a lot of "what do you want to do?" "I dunno. What do *you* want to do?" for a couple of hours while we drove aimlessly around the rotary. (or making out somewhere. Which I am not going to tell him about. And he can't anyway 'cause he needs rides everywhere and that means an automatic chaperone. Although I did tell him that I'm not going to be staring at him while he walks her to the door. I also promised him I wouldn't sit near him during the movie. I'm not quite at the stage of just dropping them off at the movie alone for a couple of hours, though.)Oh my. He obviously still needs help. He is now overplanning. I had recommended that he maybe have a scrap of paper in his pocket so he could write down her number. He just came downstairs and said that he has the paper ready, that on the other side of it he has written fake homework assignments so it doesn't look like he's *planned* to have a scrap of paper with him. He has crumpled this paper up and smoothed it back out so it looks used. He was asking me if he should ask Eddie to have a pencil in *his* pocket that Mark could then borrow. I said no. I said he could actually just go ask one of the chaperones for a pen. (and then he all obsessed about "what if they don't have one?" at which point I assured him that if they didn't, they would help him find one.)I am now wondering if my son is going to grow up to be a stalker. Or a player. He has never been this prepared for anything in his LIFE. I must now go put my head down on my desk. mk

Is it possible to happy if your are single?

2007-06-06T06:32:00.000-07:00

Singleness, like grief, goes through stages. After decades of serial dating, okay, just years of being associated with a significant other, singleness was this new phenomena in my life, not all together unpleasant, just strangely revealing, like the time in 4th grade when a peer revealed the truth that eating with your mouth open was uncouth. Between bites of corn and mashed potatoes, a girl across the round table subjected me to my most vivid account of public humiliation in my childhood years. Before that point, I never even realized that I did eat with my mouth open, but the sudden realization made total sense once it quickly processed through my fourth grade mind, and I secretly cursed my parents for working so much in order to put food on our table, but forgetting to teach me that that food need not be displayed as it was being masticated.
Having boyfriends was normal, and normal was a nice security blanket. It never occurred to me that I could stop the cycle of perpetual coupledom by choice. Everyone seemed to be in the season of singleness because of lack of options, limbo between boyfriends, or well, just because they were constant ladies in waiting - waiting for the next prince charming to prove himself authentically sweet. Why would anyone choose to be single? Don’t be fooled. I am not of the man-hating variety. I don’t burn bras or read Ms. Magazine. I happen to adore men deeply. My two best friends are men, my brothers actually, and I’ve never actually been blatantly heartbroken. So for the record, choosing singleness had nothing to do with bitterness toward the stubble-faced species.
Like suddenly understanding a social faux pas involving food at the tender age of 10, at 21 I suddenly understood my social codependency involving men. It dawned on me that despite the lure of having banquet dates secured, and the security of feeling needed and desired, there was this subtle aching in me to be unattached. I wanted to find who I was apart from the identity of so and so’s girlfriend. Was it possible to be happy and single? Happy and single? In the same sentence? It sounded like an oxymoron, but it fit the way Plush Rapper oddly fits together in this age where Pink is the new Blue for men. There was an unexplored path of singleness off the beaten road that was waiting my footprints.

What is easy online dating?

2007-03-27T04:08:00.000-07:00

Online dating is very popular these days. But while dating online has the advantages in its own, over the period of time this has been misused and is corrupted by many disadvantages. Online Dating is fun and convenient but still one has to be very careful while dating with someone they hardly know. The following are some online dating tip: .

Start slow.

In this online dating tip you are advised to be on the lookout for odd behavior or inconsistencies. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.

Guard your anonymity.
Another online dating tip is to never include your last name, real email address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or initial emails you exchange with other members.

Exercise caution and common sense.

A good online dating tip where any suitor must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior.

Request a photo.

Another routine dating tip is to ask for a photo. Photo will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent.

Talk via telephone.

A valuable online dating tip is talking over the phone. It can reveal much about a person's communication and social skills.

Meet when you are ready.

A good online dating tip is to never obligate to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy.

Watch for red flags.

Pay attention to any displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you as a part of online dating tip. Be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following conduct without providing an acceptable explanation:

• Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
• Refuses to speak to you over the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
• Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
• Appears in person to be significantly different from his or her online persona.
• Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.

Select the Safest Possible Environment.

When you make the choice to meet offline, as an added online dating tip, always tell someone where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's name and telephone number with that person.

Take Extra Caution Outside Your Area.

If you are flying in from another area, an important online dating tip is to arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you.

Get yourself out of a jam.

As a final online dating tip, never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.

Easy online dating rules

2007-03-27T03:53:00.000-07:00

While easy dating tips have been done to death, there are some new approaches to the years old problem of what to do and how to act after you've taken the online chats and instant messaging a step further with the decision to meet "for real" out in the world.

Cyber stalking can turn to real stalking if you don't pace your self and find out as much as you can about whom this person really is before you decide to meet up with them for real.

Although not talked about a lot, one of the online dating tips that is making a new splash on the scene is to log on to a background check site and join. For a few dollars a month you can have your new friend checked out by state and local authorities. If they refuse to give you their real name, there you go. Delete them from your profiles. Anyone who is genuinely interested in you will be interested in your safety as well, and although not completely fool proof, asking to do a background check on some one will really weed out the wackos, or insincere characters.

When returning a profile through an online dating service, be sure to not tell them your entire story in one email. It is wise to not go into a lengthy explanation of why you were dumped (or chose to dump them) either. Be positive, be sincere, and tell the truth.
Post your photo and reply to ones that are sent to you. A picture is worth a thousand words, remember, and so send a good one.

It is not an online dating rule to be boring in your profile. Everyone enjoys long walks on the beach (don't they?) but does everyone enjoy extreme sports? Write about what makes you a great catch, what makes you a person who marches to a different drummer, and see what you come up with.

Are you afraid of being single all you life? (easy dating)

2007-03-27T03:34:00.000-07:00

If you don't want to spend all your life alone, you'd better read this article and change life with internet dating. It's really easy and free.
So you're single. And you don't want to be single any longer. Welcome to the club. It's not an exclusive club and it's not new. In fact, it's a large club with millions of members and it's been in existence forever with a constant churn of people signing in and passing through. For as long men and women have been dating, there's always been a point when the dates no longer feel fun and meeting new people becomes a chore instead of a chance.
As soon as you reach that stage when you just know you don't want to be alone any more, membership is automatic. It's not that you don't like your own company or that your life seems meaningless by yourself. But you know you'll be happier sharing your time and your future with someone else-and the sooner it starts the happier you'll be.
It used to be the case that when singles reached this stage-when they were ready to turn their backs on their bachelorhood-they'd ring up their pals, talk to their friends and go through a string of introductions until they found someone they were prepared to settle down with.
Today, it's a lot easier. You're not limited to your social circle's social circles and there's no pressure from pals who are convinced you should like their pal-and believe there's something wrong with you if you don't. You can just go online, sign up to a dating site and gain access to millions of singles from around the world and from all walks of life.
It couldn't be easier and you're in control. For less than the price of a decent bottle of wine, you can contact thousands of singles who live near you, want to hear from you and are looking for exactly the same thing as you.
You can write them emails, chat with them online, swap photos and make arrangements to meet. Believe the blurb on the websites and you can find the love of your life in minutes-one click and you're there.
Clearly, it's not that easy.
At their most basic, dating sites are just giant databases stuffed with details on eligible singles-only some of whom are at the same stage as you.
People come to dating sites for all sorts of reasons and to find all sorts of relationships. Most are looking for a long-term connection that may lead to marriage. Many are looking for a new relationship that may become long-term. Some are looking for a quick fling that won't last longer than a weekend.
And even when you do find someone who looks interesting and wants the same thing that you do, there's no guarantee that they'll want what you have to offer. Rejection lives online too.
The fact is, while online dating certainly makes meeting the love of your life a great deal easier, it still requires effort, planning and an investment of both time and money. Exactly the same rules apply on the Web as in bars, clubs and parties.
You have to look good, be charming and stay honest if you want to build a new life with someone you're only just getting to know. You have to know how to make a great first impression, pick the right person and see it through. And you have to know how to make the most of the tools and chances you have available. All of those thing remain true throughout the online dating process-just as they're true offline too.

Common rules of online dating

2007-03-09T01:02:00.000-08:00

Remmember that making the best of your online dating experience depends largely on what you do. Like everything in life you have choices when you visit a site and what type
of site you select to "go shopping" for a potential partner. What type of
information you place on the site in terms of quality of image and how much time
you spend on your profile information.

Online dating is much like anything else in life you get back if you put in.
if your looking for a potential partner online for sex, romance, love or
friendship you should put in the effort. Most people can spot a rushed profile
description a mile off and will simply move on to the next profile. Also
consider using an up to date quality image of yourself, bad pictures almost
always equal bad results online. Women in general can get away with much more in
terms of poor quality profiling because guys will tend to make contact
regardless.

Use current up to date information always! No exceptions, why put up a 10
year old picture of yourself? Fake or dated misleading information serves no
one, if you want to live a fantasy then don't do it at someone else's expense.
Go to a role playing type website and practice your self delusion there. Make
sure you know what type of site your on - do your research. No use placing an ad
or responding to ads on a
swingers, gay or lesbian site if your heterosexual, there are plenty of
niche dating sites online these days so you don't have to search for long to
find something that will suit you.

After you make contact with people don't be afraid to check them out via
private chat and even better use the web cam chat rooms so you can in fact see
who it is your talking with. Look for some type of profile verification feature
on the site and never be in a rush to have a face to face meeting. spend some
time to build a relationship online and develop some trust, after you feel at
ease then you can move to maybe telephone contact and then personal. Women
should be very cautious and don't be afraid to take a friend or two to a first
meeting.

Hint for ladies: how to make you online dating safe

2007-03-09T00:57:00.000-08:00

The first rule in safe online dating is to meet the person somewhere in a public place. Don't let him to pick you up from home on the first date. If it's possible try to arrange some kind of double date because you will be and feel safer having somebody with you that you trust.

The Internet has become the ultimate haven for singles - without the drunks, the noise, and the exorbitant cost you pay to be in the bars desperately hoping to be noticed. Thanks to online dating sites, you don't have to ask your mother or friend to help you hook up with someone they think is perfect for you - which in most cases, isn't.

Find out more about married dating today! Your first order of business, as stated above, will be getting matched up with one or more dating sites that fit you and your needs. The questions below should help you narrow things down.

Do you friends consider you a matchmaker? Do you have at least one couple you are friends with whom you set up? If you care about couples and are the matchmaking type, you could be next in line for your own business.

Communication in dating is essential. Not only do you need to know what your date needs and desires, you also need to know how those things play into your life. Don’t get angry with your date if he hasn’t fulfilled your every need if you didn’t communicate those needs to him in the first place.

Tips To Secure Your Online Dating Safety

Online personals and dating can be a very fun venue towards meeting that special someone. However, one's safety should still be the top priority. Did you know that most online dating services do not pre-screen their users? This means that they cannot ensure that the people you meet through their sites are safe enough to be dealt with. So, this makes you call the shots when it comes to screening them.

Here are a few tips to make online dating less risky and more fun:

1. Anonymity Breeds Safety, For Awhile

Giving your real email address, personal web site URL, last name, phone number, place of work, home address, or any other information that identifies you in your profile or first few emails that you exchange with other members makes you an easy victim. Turn off your signature file, or make sure that it does not have any identifying information, when sending emails to a member through your own email.

2. Photo Perfect Request

To give an idea of the person's look, thus make you a tad safer, request for a picture. A scanned photo won't cost so much, so no excuse can be given for not doing it.

3. Lean on Common Sense

Trusting your online acquaintances easily can make you easy bait. If your gut feel tells you that someone is lying, there's a big chance that you are right. Look for someone that deserves your trust. Online intimacy is very dangerous. Don't indulge yourself in such endeavor at the click of a mouse. Logical thinking will save you a lot of trouble.

4. Call First, Don't Drool Just Yet

A person's skills when it comes to communicating can be easily gauged through a phone call. Though it might cost you some moolah, it is worth it to make sure you don't fall for someone who is anti-social. However, to make things a lot safer, use a cell phone or a pay phone instead of using your land line. Unless you are absolutely comfortable with the person you are calling, don't give your home phone number at once. Churches often stress the benefits of love, marriage, and family life, and Christians are encouraged to form relationships with others. Many Christian singles face the reality that meeting other eligible Christians can be quite difficult. Those in small churches often find it hard to meet enough single people, while singles in large church communities feel under the spotlight, or find it hard get to know people well. Be honest about who you are and what you are seeking - do not reveal more than you normally would in a face to face first meeting. Be willing to endure – in fact learn to enjoy – the uneasy feelings. Will he like me as much as I like him? What will she be like in bed? He hasn’t called in 2 days, 3 hours, 4 minutes; is it over? Will she go away with me for a weekend if I ask? Well, find out more on dating-married.info Dating can be both very positive or a negative experience. Part of what makes us is the relationships we have and the lessons learned from those relationships. We should be more considerate of the lessons learned and carry them in our lifelong commitments. If you asked me ten years ago if I would ever suggest that people use a dating service, I would have definitely said no. I would have said that people need to find their special someone on their own and that a dating service is just a phony way that people are using to try to make money. There are more than 700 dating services online in the United States alone and new sites are cropping up weekly. The huge array of dating services online can be overwhelming even for the most proactive dater. An average dating services online might demand $200 fee or less annually. 5. Delay the Meeting It is advisable to take your time and get to know the person as much as possible first before saying yes to a face to face meeting. If he seems to be only spouting or keying saccharine words that you want to hear, the person on the other end might have a questionable honesty. Don't feel like you are obligated to meet anyone, you still have the last say on whether you are ready to meet the person or not. You are free to change your mind if anything feels not right. 6. Psychoanalyze or End up with a Psycho You should pay attention to any signs of intense frustration, anger or any displays of aggressive behavior. If the person is trying to control or pressure you, stop the communication. Here are the other alarming manifestations of bad behavior that will make you aware that you are in danger. - giving dubious info about appearance, age, interests, profession, marital status, etc. - refusal to converse with you over the phone when you have already established online intimacy - consistently not giving any direct answers to direct questions, etc. - overly agreeing to your every statement - asking you to provide travel arrangements 7. Offline Meeting Before meeting your online friend, tell someone reliable where you will go and when you will return. Leaving your date's name and phone number is a good idea. Bring your mobile phone. Don't allow your date to pick you up at home. Have your own transportation and meet somewhere public. During the date, don't leave your drink unattended. After the date, leave on your own too. To make online dating work, it is imperative that you exercise caution. Have ample time to get to know the other person, don't rush yourself or allow anyone to rush you into doing anything. It's better to be safe and dateless for a while than sorry. Make your first date simple. Prior to your date, set a dating schedule... a minimum of an hour to three hours is ideal. A failsafe dating plan will assure the both of you are not obligated or disappointed to prolong a date that may not be going well for either party. Moreover, it avoids the awkwardness of ending the date soon. If your new to online dating you may have allot of questions going through your mind about finding a date online. You have maybe heard things like its not safe or that you wont find a long lasting relationship online. Lets look at my top 5 myths of online dating. Use caution when giving out personal information, including your full name, address or telephone number. At first, provide nothing more than an e-mail address. Dating, these days, is far different from how it was back then. People usually met at a party or were hooked up by friends then in time, the couple would realize whether the friendship could go on to the next level or it was never meant to be. The most important thing to remember is that first of all dating is a game and therefore, should be fun. Some people treat dating as a mission to overcome or as a world that needs to be conquered.

Easy Steps to Make Your Female Friend Fall in Love With You

2007-03-05T04:35:00.000-08:00

It seems difficult but it is really easy. You don’t need a guitar, rock-hard abs, or even a full head of hair to make a great impression on a woman. Follow this advice, and she’ll want to hear from you again real soon:

1. Go out with another woman. If you’re going out to a club or a bar, take a female friend or your sister with you. Women are often more amenable to talking to men who are with other women. It gives them the feeling that you actually like women, and that’s attractive. If your female friend is outgoing, see if she’ll

make small talk with somebody you’d like to meet. She can say something along the lines of, “I love your necklace!” and that should do it. After a little back-and-forth, your friend can say, “Oh, how rude of me. This is my friend Andy,” and you’re in business.

2. Look women in the eye. It seems elementary, but you’d be surprised at how many guys either undress a woman with their eyes or avoid eye contact altogether. Women love it when you look them in the eye.

3. Don’t try to “buy” her. If you buy her a drink, she is obligated to say thank you and that’s it. If she accepts the drink, the polite thing for her to do would be to spend a little time talking to you, but that’s all. On the other hand, if a woman takes the drink and walks away, let her go. You wouldn’t want spend time with her, anyway. Trust me.

4. Find out her interests. Get her talking about what she’s crazy about, whether it’s David Bowie or the New York Mets. If you don’t get it, you can say something like, “You know, I’m not too familiar with Bowie. What CD would you recommend?” Or, “I’m more into football than baseball. What is it about baseball that you like?” Ask a woman her opinion, and you’ll have her eating out of your hand (we have more in common with guys than you think).

5. Listen more, talk less. Hey, I’m not suggesting that you let her do all the talking, but some guys meet a woman and then never shut up. Don’t try to impress her! Don’t brag about your GPA at Harvard, the Jag in your driveway, or the fact that you’re CEO of a tuna fish conglomerate. You’ll get precisely the kind of woman you don’t want, the one who’s only into you for your achievements and possessions, rather than for who you really are. Instead, ask questions and listen for the answers. Give your opinions. Get to know the woman. Let her get to know you.

6. Be optimistic. In other words, this is no time to discuss how oil prices are going through the roof, what a witch your ex-girlfriend was, or that your parents never gave you enough attention. If you run out of things to talk about, ask her if she’s seen the latest hit at the box office.

7. Be chaste. Do not try to go to bed with a woman right away. Sure, there’s a chance that if you go for it, she will, but if you’re hoping for a lasting relationship, you set up all sorts of weirdness if you “do it” too soon. Crazy as it sounds, if she sleeps with you, she may not respect you in the morning (you didn’t know that, did you?). She’ll figure that you get into bed with every woman you meet, which pretty much rules you out as boyfriend material. (Or she may be the type who thinks you owe her because she slept with you, which makes her really bad girlfriend material.) Save yourself undue angst and get to know a person before getting into bed with her.

8. Make a great exit. If you want to see her again, ask for her number (preface this with something casual, “Maybe we can get together some time.”). Then touch her shoulder (a little restraint is sexier here; don’t try to kiss her) and tell her you’ll be in touch. Then leave. If your friends aren’t ready to go yet, tell her you have to hang out with them. Walk away. The key here is to keep her wanting more.

9. Call her. If you said you were going to call, you can avoid looking desperate by waiting two days, but no longer. A plea on behalf of the female sex: If you’re not interested in a woman, do not—I repeat—do not say you’ll call. Say, “Nice meeting you,” and be on your way. Besides, collecting numbers to feed your ego is kind of sad.

10. Treat women as you’d have them treat you. The media have brainwashed us to believe that men and women come from different planets, but we’re all human. Some of the biggest losers in love are women who complain that all men are the same, they all want one thing, and so on. But it’s equally sad when a guy assumes all women are like his mother or his psychopathic ex-girlfriend. You’ll enjoy astonishing success with women if you understand two simple facts: We’re people. We're more like you than you think.

By Terry Hernon MacDonald

Flirting as an Effective Startup of Your Internet Dating Career: Easy Dating Steps for Successful Flirting

2007-03-05T04:25:00.000-08:00

Some people born natural flirts and others even couldn't charm the backside of a bus if their life depended on it.
The power of effective flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex. Master the art of flirting and you also become a friend magnet and can use your skills to influence business relationships.
"You've either got it or you haven't!" is often what you will hear men saying when they boast about their conquests. Women, on the other hand, are more coy when talking about a
man they have met. So as not to appear full of herself, she will often say to her friends "Oooh, I don't think he likes me, what do you think?" If she is a successful flirt, however, she will be thinking along the same lines of a man, "Yeah, he was putty in my hands!"
Flirting is an art requiring confidence without being OTT. A successful flirt knows how to get the balance just right; too much and there is a real danger you will be labelled as "slimy" (if you're a man) and "tarty" (if you're a woman).
If flirting doesn't come naturally to you, you can learn to flirt by building your confidence, believing in yourself and interacting with other people.
Here are some effective flirting tips which can be practised at work and/or on a social scene.
Have Fun!
First and foremost flirting is fun! Whether you are the flirter or the flirtee it makes both parties smile (on the inside as well as the outside!). Don't take it seriously; be playful, be light-hearted, be infectious!
Ooze Confidence
The best flirts have a positive outlook on life and are happy with themselves. To successfully flirt you need to feel good about yourself before you are able to transmit this "feel good" factor to the opposite sex. If you display a positive and optimistic attitude to life you will find yourself connecting with people who are right for you.
Make the first move
Don’t wait for someone to approach you. If it's someone at work you've got your eye on, wait for them to go to the kitchen and then make a beeline for the coffee machine. The same applies in a bar, wait for them to go to the bar and then squeeze in next to them. Start with a simple “Hello” and take things from there. What have you got to lose?
Pay a compliment and receive a smile!
A genuine compliment costs nothing and yet can make someone feel so special. If someone looks great, tell them! If someone has achieved something to be proud of, tell them! Once you start making someone feel good about themselves, they are more likely to want to spend more time with you! And if someone pays you a compliment, be proud of the compliment and say “Thank you”!
Eye to Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of our most powerful communicating mechanisms. Most people don’t have a problem making eye contact with someone they don’t find attractive but they become awkward in front of people they are attracted to.
you tend to look away at people you like, practice making eye contact with people on your way to work, a quick glance and then turn away. This is a good way to build up your confidence. Don’t stare, however, this will make people feel uncomfortable!
Pitch your voice
Learn to vary the tone, pitch and speed of your voice. A voice rich in tones sounds far more interesting than one dull note!
Listen
A good flirt has the ability to get people to open up and talk about themselves. Pay attention when someone is talking to you and ask questions to show you are interested. The best questions are the ones which will lead to someone remembering a positive experience about themselves.
Move your body!
There are many positive body language signs: lingering eye contact, smiling widely, touching someone, head tilting to one side, running fingers through hair, undivided attention but if you really want to let go and flirt openly – dance! Dancing is a great form of self-expression allowing you to interact with someone and connect.
Smile, Smile, Smile!
Make your smile contagious! The more you smile the more people will want to know you and be around you!
Don’t be rude!
Flirting does not involve being sexually explicit! Nor does it involve being offensive if someone rejects your advances. If you have been flirting with someone and are not receiving positive feedback don’t get disheartened or take it personally, move on to the next person! You may want to consider a different approach if you are getting a lot of rejections.
Send an email
Emails are a great way to communicate with someone if you're too shy to approach them face to face. Whether it's someone you are interested in at work or you want to try internet dating, emails and instant messaging allow you to flirt without blushing or getting tongue-tied.
Be careful not to become intimate online too quickly though; it's easy to paint a rosy picture of the person behind the monitor but until you have met them you don't really know them. My message here is get to know someone online before arranging a date, but don't fall in love before meeting them! The reality could burst the bubble!

By Alison Edwards

Internet Dating: pros and cons.

2007-01-16T04:08:00.000-08:00

Yesterday evening I watched TV (sometimes it happens but not so often as I prefer Internet entertainment). And there was broadcasted a program devoted to Internet dating. The core idea of this program (as I understood) that Internet dating is evil and you’ll get nothing but real problems. But I can not agree with it. Of course, there are some problems associated with internet dating, mainly with it’s another segment as “internet briding“ but we are not discussing it (if want to find a wife online you’d better visit this blog: http://sisers.blogspot.com/). But here we discuss internet dating for flirt, friendship etc.

One thing I can advise you to safe your time, money and nerves: always think twice before you do something and internet is not an exception.

Next time we’ll continue our internet dating course.

Make yourself a superstar

2007-01-12T04:19:00.000-08:00

Have you ever dreamed to be popular as Hollywood actors or pop singers? As for me when I was younger I dreamed to be like Robert DeNiro. But then I grew older and understood that everyone is a superstar and the only thing you should do to become popular is to inform others from your community that you are a unique personality. I’m not a philosopher, I’m just the man who knows the secret ;).
Ok, now let’s continue our course of successful internet dating. In this article we are going to discuss what to write in the field where you are to provide a brief information about yourself. I hope you are not too shy to write the truth about yourself but we will do a bit different thing. Frankly speaking there are three basic ways how you can fill this field:

write down boring info about your life with common facts;

quote the words of a clever person (it better if a quotation is not widely known);

write down some exciting info about yourself to make a girl feel that she wants to become a friend with you.

As for me I always choose the third variant sometimes mixed with the second variant. The first variant can be chosen if you have enough time and can wait for a long time till someone will find you. But if read this article I’m sure you want to find a babe as soon as possible that’s why we choose the third variant.

You can tell me: “It’s easy to say ‘exiting info’ but I am not a professional write.” I also thought that I have no writing talent but it turned out that I am not a looser as I thought before. Remember the first paragraph of this article? Yes, everyone in this world is a superstar! You know about it so convince the others of the truth of this idea.

First of all, take a sheet of paper and write down your strong characteristics (you can also type it in you WordPad but I prefer handwriting) then write down the weakest points of your character. Have you done it? Do you have more advantages then disadvantages? It really does not matte but still you are to find at least 2 strong point or it’s useless to continue our lesson. If you can not find anything positive in yourself – ask your friends, parents, relatives, pets (if they cam speak). Are you ready now? So we can start, look at your strongest feature of a character and remember something connected with which is alive in your mind. For example, I think that I am romantic, so I write down in the “some words about yourself” field that “one rainy summer day I wrote down a poem about a girl who makes smile and feel so happy. In a minute the sky was clear with the sun shinning bright. And now I’m here to find this girl which lives in my poem and in my lonely heart.” Now try to write something about yourself.
Do u have difficulties with it? Write your questions in comment and I will answer you.

Next time we will talk how to write the first letter to the girl you have chosen.

One secret to make your dating profile a success

2007-01-11T04:04:00.000-08:00

Do u like this babe above? So do I. One day I fell in love with her when I found her profile on one dating site and did my best to meet her offline. But… it turned out that her name is Ewa Sonnet, a Polish model and singer, and a girl online just copied her photo to attract more attention. I was disappointed ant lost interest to this girl though she sent me her real photos and invited to meet her offline.

You can ask me: “Great photo, thanx! But why have you told us this story?”

The answer is simple: “Don not make the same mistake as this girl who pretended to be Ewa Sonnet!” When you fill your profile on a dating site write only true facts (of course, you can make them a bit brighter). If you love cats – write about it. Why? Because if a babe you’ve met online ask you about it, you can tell interesting facts. And the main thing – post ONLY real photos but… It’s not so simple as think:

don’t post photos where you are not alone or with your girl-friend (it’s always difficult to explain where you are in the photo and a great minus as 80% of girls do not respond to your profile with a group photo);

don’t post photos of low quality (I hope you (or one of friends) have a digital photo-camera so make a good photo of your own);

it’s better to post 2 or three photos (she would have a chance to examine you from all sides);

do not forget about your clothes, it’s better not to post nude photos (it possible if you place your profile on special sites). The best thing if your clothes will strengthen your best qualities and hide your weak points (you can send her you nude photos later or strip at the end of your first date);

make the optimal size of your photos;

write something down (a slogan or your motto) on one of your photos (PhotoShop program will help you) to make it more attractive.

That’s all for today, next time I will tell you what you should write in “A few words bout yourself” field. Thank you, post your comments to make my posts more interactive.

Five easy steps to meet a girl online

2007-01-09T23:59:00.000-08:00

So, let's start. I have written before that online dating is really easy!

But you should be self confident and ready to spend some time on it but you won't be disappointed.

The first step.
Visit http://google.com/ and enter something like this "online dating". Oh, great! Thousands of sites where you can find any babe you want. Surf some of these sites and choose the one you like more and where you feel calm and happy.

The second step.
We have chosen a dating site so we can register and fill you profile. Write only true facts about yourself and post you real photos!!! I'm not a handsome guy (a bit later, perhaps, I will post my photo) but still I always meet smart beauties and they love me as i am frank. Remember, your main target to meet her offline and it will be a bit confusing if your appearance is not the same as in you profile. Don't be shy and do not hesitate to write about your hobbies. But one thing, do not fill your phone number. In my next article, I will explain you in details how to fill your profile to be a success.

The third step.
We are registered now. So there are two ways:
1. just wait when a sexy babe finds your portfile and writes down to you
2. find this sexy babe. I
hate waiting so usually it's me who starts. You should know exactly who you are looking for. It's useless to send "hello massages" to every girl registered on a website. It does not matter if you want to find a blonde teen or a brunette milf lady. As for me I love different girls so every time I'm looking for something new. Every dating site has a search system which will help you to find a girl according to your parameters. Just fill the gaps and click a "search" button. Wow, such a great deal of horny babes just waiting for you! But don't be in a hurry, i advise you to sort the results according to the date of registration. Choose those who were registered a week or two weeks ago. Believe me it the best audience, don't choose those who were just registered unless you really feel that she is your fate and you can not live without her :-)

The fourth step.
Now we are ready to send the first message. Never send short "hello" messages with one or two words, it's the easiest way to receive no answer. Look at her photo and read her portfile, imagine that she is next to you and write something outstanding. As for me I prefer to write a few words about her appearance and how we can spend time together (it will help you to make her answer your letter). Don't write much about yourself, leave it for her to ask you. Send several letters to girls you have found and wait for their replies. I can say that I receive 3 answers to 7 letters. My result is average as I am not a dandy. Perhaps you will have better results.

The fifth step.
Now you know very much (for me it's 5-7 letters) about your date and ready to invite her to meet. Of course, if she lives in your town (that's why you'd better to search for babes from your region if you want to spend sweet hours with your online date in offline). And it's the most important thing how to write about it correctly and move your relations on a new level...

This step needs more time, so read about it in my next article.

Meet a girl online: it's really easy

2007-01-09T23:54:00.000-08:00

I've started this blog, because i'm a profi in dating online and i want to share my experience to make you happy.

Have you ever tried to meet a girl online?
Was it a success?
Have you met with her in real world afterwards?

As for me, i can say three "yes" and if want to become a real profi in online dating, read my blog to find the answers to your questions.